What I Know About Connecting with Those on the Other Side

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When we lose someone who was part of our life it is hard. It is hard even if we did not like them, or if we haven’t seen them for some time. Grief still happens.  Grief still occurs, and it occurs on all levels of consciousness. It is a process that we go through whether we know it or not and it takes its own time. It cycles through our being on every level; mental, emotional, physical, and soul levels. It comes in waves, and floods and deep pain. For a normal healthy person, this process can take at least a year, even if they were not a significant person in your life or if they were an abuser who you hated. In those cases, the process may not appear as dramatic as losing a spouse, close friend or a family member but it still occurs.

Whatever the person was to you in your life their death will bring up the negative and positive of who they were to you and amplify it. Loss also amplifies guilt. Grief and guilt go hand in hand in many cases. What we didn’t say or did say, what we didn’t do or did do brings up feelings of regret and guilt. The longer and more intimate your relationship the more profound feelings of regret and guilt will be. Most healthy people can come to terms with what was through reflection and acceptance. In an emotionally unhealthy person, these feelings of regret and guilt can manifest in anger, blame, shame and can even become a lifelong process of pain.

Talking to the other side should not be this complicated, so why do I bring up grief? Because as spiritual practitioners we need to be aware that those wishing to connect to a lost loved one are in a state of loss, even if it has been years since the crossing. All these emotions of pain, loss, regret, and guilt may be playing a part in their desire to connect. On the other hand, if they have worked through the pain they will still feel the loss but have made peace with the past and no longer feel regret and guilt. Those who have done work with their grief will be easy to assist and most likely their loved one will be easy to connect with. It is much harder to connect with those on the other side if the one on this side is still in the throes of grief and the myriad of emotions that come with it. Every medium who wishes to assist people to reconnect with lost loved ones needs to be aware of what state the person is in.

Life beyond the veil that keeps heaven and Earth in separate realms is a mystery to us on Earth. It will always be a mystery. We have hints and clues of what it is like for those who have crossed, but we have very little understanding of it outside of religious teaching, which creates belief, that may or may not be the reality. In spiritual things, I go with what I experience and what I have been taught by Spirit directly and what I have learned from communicating with those who have crossed – those are the sources for my insight and my teaching. No other spiritual teacher, religious teacher or tradition influences by belief about the other side. I encourage all people at all times to seek the truth for themselves and don’t take my word for it. Seek out answers from your own guidance and you will know the truth when you get it. I teach connecting with Spirit so everyone can get the truth from the source of their own knowing.  This is key to connecting with those on the other side. Do not be influenced by judgment, or your belief about what they should be going through in the other realm. If they did bad things in life are they condemned by God or karma to pay for their bad things? My guidance says there is no punishment in the Spirit realm, but this is a good question to ask and answer for yourself. It is also a good question to ask those you are assisting to connect with their lost loved one. What do they believe about what has happened to their person once they left the Earth? Their belief is going to have an impact on whether or not they will be able to speak with someone who has crossed over.

In my experience the most difficult crossing is suicide. Every religious tradition condemns it and speaks of suffering – sometimes for eternity – of those who left this world by their own doing. This is traumatic for those who lost someone to suicide. It is profoundly painful for those in this side to think of someone they love in eternal suffering. Think of a mother losing her child to suicide only to have a priest tell them that their child is now condemned to hell by God. Coping with loss and the deep pain of eternal damnation is a torture that may last the rest of her life. My guidance says differently, but belief is a powerful force that cannot be changed overnight. My guidance says suicide is a result of mental illness and sometimes physical illness. No normal healthy person commits suicide. Illness is always the cause. Illness being the cause of suicide it is no different than cancer or some other disease that ends with death. I have spoken to those who have crossed due to suicide and not one has ever said they were being punished.

For that matter, no one I have ever spoken to on the other side has ever mentioned any negative experience being there. They are all in Spirit, with Spirit and very well indeed. They are always happy, always joyful and always willing to help the ones they left behind. No one has ever said, “it’s really hot here, get me out!” Not once.

Why do those in Spirit want to communicate with us? The connection of love goes beyond this physical world. They still love us. They want to help us in our lives in any way they can and every time we ask. They are not counting all the times you hurt them, they are not rehashing old wounds, they are free of the challenging dynamics of living in the world. That freedom is difficult for us to comprehend but if we can at least intellectually understand that they hold no grudges then we can allow for their love and help in our lives even though they are not physically with us. All we need to do is allow it. If we are still in the energy of regret and have not worked through their crossing to accept it, then it will be difficult to get their help and therefore difficult to connect with them even through a medium.

When someone crosses they do want to help those who are grieving their loss and the messages a medium will get demonstrate that. The first thing the medium will get is an identifier – such as the medium will describe the person or a common object that the one in Spirit was associated with. This is to tell them that they in Spirit are really coming through. The next thing that comes through is that they are happy, sometimes they will say they are with another person who crossed before them and they are happy. This is to ease the mind of the one in grief. Even the most enlightened spiritual person has a fear of the person crossing as lost, alone or suffering. That worry exists even if it is hidden in the unconscious. Therefore, this second message is to help ease that worry. The third message is the most important. The third message is about forgiveness. This is important. This is THE reason people connect with those who have crossed into Spirit, even if they don’t know it. They either want to say ‘I’m sorry’ or hear ‘I’m sorry’. This has great power. Do not underestimate it. Even if the person wanting to connect is so enlightened as to hold no grudges, and has accepted that any hurt they may have caused the one in Spirit was in due course and they are already forgiven, no intellectual reasoning can replace the power of connecting with the one in Spirit and hearing “I forgive you” or “will you forgive me?”. Nothing holds power like that does. Nothing facilitates healing like that does. The tears may flow at this point and that is how we know the healing is happening. I have sobbed in sessions where I was channeling the messages from a loved one in Spirit. I am sobbing on behalf of the one who no longer has need of tears, this relief of tears is powerful. My clients have sobbed in deep release of the sorrow they have held at bay for so long. This is the power of connecting to those in spirit, those who have left the world behind but still hold deep love for those who feel their departure on a cellular level. This is the healing power of being a medium. All psychics are healers and healing through a devastating loss is the most extraordinary gift we can share.

Once we move through the feelings of regret, guilt, and grief we are able to communicate with our lost loved one on a new level. We can invite them to assist us with our troubles. We can ask them to pave the way of ease through a difficult situation. They will gratefully and joyfully assist all they can, and they can assist in a great many ways. Our parents, siblings, friends and all those we love who have moved into the world of Spirit are always with you and always ready to assist you and will always be a part of your life and who you are.

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A Journey to the Sun

This journey is written by my guide in answer to a question I asked of him – if one could read an astral journey meditation without going into meditation and get the same benefit. Below is his response. He has written several since then, but I offer this first one to you. I did record an audio version of this meditation for those who would get more out of it that way. The audio is added below the text.

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A Journey to the Sun

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Imagine small pond, a tiny place of life, where we see a child who may find the delights of discovery. She peers into the depths seeking what is hidden, and perhaps what has never been seen before. There is an excitement about discovering some strange new being. Her attentive eyes look through the reflection of the water into the depths enthralled with anticipation. As a child she has no need to fear what is hidden, she only has delight at the idea of a new discovery.

Shall we all be like this child and look beyond our reflection into the depths of our own consciousness with the delight of anticipated discovery? For what is hidden may bring you joy. Let us now, together, make a discovery.

I, White Eagle, am beside you as always. Picture me standing with you as the place you are in shifts and fades growing darker. Take my hand and we ascend this world, gently floating into the sky. Below the Earth gets smaller and we are suspended in the atmosphere.  We can see the moon so small next to her and we see the sun a long way off. Let us make our way to the brilliant life force of our solar system and get closer and closer to the sun. Our physical bodies are left behind allowing us to explore this beautiful star without harm. Picture her close before us a dancing and alive flaming orb. She shall be our portal to other worlds, a dimensional gateway to all that is. Now we dive into our fiery star. We accelerate our speed and colors flash around us until we reach the core of white light in the center of source. Now we travel through the light to reach the next realm and find ourselves in the dark expanse of a new universe. We stand among the cosmos and the stars. This universe feels fresh and new. The lights of the stars are bright and vibrant. They feel closer than they are. The galaxies beyond hold the promise of worlds unknown, new life forms and beings who may show us the way. The mysteries of the universe surround us, yet the greatest mystery is what is hidden within.

Travel with me and we fly to a distant galaxy. We go closer to a brilliant swirl of light in the black void. The dazzling colors of shining light mesmerize us, and we seek to discover more. Closer now, we see a small solar system of just a few planets surrounding a small star. There is a place here I wish you to see and explore. It is a green and blue planet of water. We fly to it and hover above the water’s surface, taking in the atmosphere, the feeling and energy of the planet. How does it feel to be here? Take a moment to tune into her, close your eyes and feel what she is like.

The water and wind are settled, but we can see storm clouds in the distance. Below us we see the reflection of the sun on the quiet surface. Look beyond the reflected light of the surface into the depths of the waters. Can you see what lies below? There is life there, there are continents submerged with mountains and valleys, rocky terrains newly formed by underwater volcanos. There are plants a big as trees and marine life like you have never seen before. Wild and exotic with fantastic colors and shapes. Let us take a closer look.

Before we submerge I shall give you a gift. In my hand is a glowing orb of light. Watch as it grows bigger expanding into an enormous bubble, so you may step into it. This light shall illuminate the deep and keep you safe. Step into the bubble of light and we may go down into the depths of this place. Let us go for a swim.

We go into the water, it is the sweetest most playful feeling. Here the bottom is not very deep, and the life holds a feeling of joy. We see the small strange fish who enjoy the warmth of the sun through the water’s surface. It is the nursery of life here, as though the newly born have come to play. There is a great deal of plant life with strange flowers moving in the currents and even some type of aquatic insects. It is fascinating to watch the interplay of life here, so simple and quiet, yet free and expressive, like a dance to silent music. We can feel there is no lack, nor want nor desire. There is abundant light and food so that the hours of the days in this place may be enjoyed and experienced simply.

As we swim from here we see we were on the top of a mountain peak. We follow the slope downward and find a new plateau as the light of above fades. The life here is larger and scarcer, yet still beautiful. There are rock formations of all colors and shapes which become hiding places for colorful crustaceans and fish. The predators are here looking for something wiggly and tasty, but when not hunting they seem placid and wise. We can tune into their energy and feel a sense of peace. This is the peace that comes with knowing who you are and having dominion over all you see. They have no conflict over their existence, nor do they have conflict over the existence of the others.  The peace and wise power of the predators bring a sense of harmony here.

Now it is time to go deeper following the slope we see a trench cut into the sea floor. It looks like a black scar. Let us explore there. We must go miles and miles and we are awed by the pure enormity of it. We see by the light of your bubble strange and mysterious life passing us by as we descend. Some frightening, some intriguing. The deeper we go the darker and stranger it is. Now we come to the deepest part of the sea. The chasm widens and narrows as we follow it along to an opening in the depth. Where we see, quietly resting, a guardian of the sea. Monstrous in size and fearsome in appearance, long and serpent-like but fish-like too. Its lair seems cut out to fit him. Surrounding us are the walls of the trench and this is as far down as we can go.

A gap in the trench wall promises a cavern, we must bypass the monster to get to it. Take my hand and we shall easily pass by unnoticed. We sneak by the slumbering beast and squeeze through the opening. It is a rough passage, narrow and dark. Then it begins to widen and transforms into a cave. The cave opens to a huge expanse like a cathedral of stone.  Up ahead there is an enormous rock formation. Towering rough and jagged pillars call to us. As we approach, the light you radiate shows sparkling crystals between the rugged stone.  Going forward still, we see more and more crystals until we are surrounded by them. Crystal points jettison out many feet high. The light you radiate plays on them like a song of rainbows filling the space with light. Here we have found the soul of this planet. Consciousness embodied in crystal.

You sense a high frequency just faint of hearing. Let us commune with these beings and know what they know. Sit still and quiet as these towering beings infuse you.

 

You now feel oneness with the crystals. The feeling of a pink wave flows through you, then a blue wave, then a golden wave, then you are floating at the height of being elevated on the waves of color. You know color without sight. Color carries a pitch of frequency unique to the shade of light. Simply by awakening to the vibration of that frequency and the frequencies of all colors you can paint a picture with perfection.  Sound too, becomes a knowing instead of a hearing. Aware of sound waves around you, you can feel the ripple of life throughout the whole planet. The planet tells you every movement and change in the patterns of life. The power and love you feel through this connection is exhilarating. In this heightened state of being you know everything, every tiny being’s experience, every motion on the surface and every wonder of the deep. The planet’s life is witnessed and recorded by you. You can feel without emotion; you can know without thought. Love in its purest form is embodied by you.

Be in the hum of enlightenment and know the essence of your soul. Like these crystals, you too know everything that is happening around you. Every shift and change in the energy waves of life is accessible to you. All the happenings and even the hidden things – all the secrets and all the truths. You know who you are and everything you have ever been from before your birth to what shall become of you after this life and everything in between. You know the power of each experience without judgement or fear. It is all in the crystal cave that is your soul.  We must go deep to find it, we must be brave to bypass the strangeness lurking in the dark as we travel to the abyss of the unconscious and face the fearsome beast guarding our treasure. The beast shall not keep us at bay – we shall have the treasures of our wisdom revealed to us.

Now is the time for our ascent. Take deep breaths of gratitude as we leave our crystal friends behind. Know we can return to this place of bliss at any time we choose. We see a stream of bubbles coming through the ocean floor and can follow it up to the water’s surface. Allow yourself to float upon the bubbles in the warmth of the planet’s exhale all the way into the sunlight.

We emerge onto the surface and hover for a moment above the water as the sunlight dances in joy on waves of celebration for our discovery. Take my hand as we fly back through the cosmos. Away from our planet of water we accelerate into the solar system. Now the stars grow distant as they wish us farewell. We soar through the galaxy and beyond. Now in deep space, there is a bright orb of light beckoning us to enter. We fly though the intense bright and through a rush of color to emerge on the other side of our very own sun. We feel the familiarity of this place and our solar system welcomes us back. We float along as we are called by the attraction to our home planet until our Earth is in view. Let us pause here gaze at our home in all her beauty. Let us take in the love she has for us and feel the power of the love we have for her. For your life with her is a love story.

Now we continue our descent and float to your home and to your body and you are fully back in complete peace. You feel the physical world of your reality with a new wonderment and appreciation. Take some time to tune into your surroundings, take a deep breath and exhale completely. Notice the sensation of being in your body. Notice the placement of your feet. Notice your feet and how they are in the moment and then place them flat on the ground. Take another deep breath and slowly exhale. Now visualize your feet sinking into the Earth going deep into rich soil. Experience the soil as it nourishes and infuses your feet with the love of Mother Earth. Now pay attention as that nourishment flows up throughout your body. Take another deep breath in and exhale. Circulate the joy of this love through your breathing in and out your nose until you feel complete.

Allow some time for contemplation of these travels. Consider what you have seen of the power you hold and the bliss of who you truly are. It is a gift of joy to be part of this miraculous love story of life on Earth.

 

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Consciousness is an alive and dynamic entity which guides our thoughts, our actions and the state of our emotional wellbeing. The unconscious directs the thoughts, emotions and actions of what we do on the conscious level. When we dive deep into the unconscious we find the driving force for our lives. Yet this place is, for many, unexplored like the depths of the oceans. If we fear what may lie in the murky depths we are unable to reach the core of our soul and therefore the life we live is left unknowing of its own potential.

Exploring what you have hidden away over the years of your life can be a very frightening and painful endeavor, but you do not have to do this alone. You have access to Spirit to take you by the hand and keep you safe so that you may know and understand what keeps you at bay. In the safe space of meditations and journeys with your guides you can face and learn from your pains and fears, so they no longer have power over you. When the unconscious becomes conscious then we are truly free.

The monster of deep is guarding passage to the soul. This entity keeps us under control and will block the access to our soul if we allow it to do so. This time we gently passed unnoticed, but we will have to face this beast in the pages to come. This monster is the antagonist for many a myth, legend and story from the beginning of time. It is the beast we must slay to reach the princess, the dragon we must fight to free the village, and the dark force of evil in our nightmares. For it is our own self, our ego identity that wishes to maintain its dominance over our consciousness. The ego fears its own death more than physical death and will do all it can to keep us from accessing the power of Spirit.

With courage and help we can tame the beast and have the treasure. The hero is often guided by a divine force or given a magical weapon to fight its foe. This is the guidance of the soul. Our soul finds a way – the bubbles from the depths are messages to the conscious self, guiding us and awakening us. We need only be aware they are there and pay attention to those gentle whispers of insight, guidance and inspiration that will allow us to flow through life with ease and be empowered to make peace with our beast within. Your intuition is your magical sword.

It is a challenge to pay attention to the soft whisper bubbling up from the soul when we have been adapted to following the thunderous shouting of the ego. I suggest you listen to both and witness the conflict this creates within you. For now, it is enough to witness this dynamic as you go about your life. Watch for when, where, how the soft voice comes to you and watch how the ego responds and what maneuvers, manipulations and arguments it uses to keep you from listening to your soul. This is a very clever beast and will do its utmost to keep you from trusting yourself and it especially does not want you to use that sword of intuition.

We on the spiritual path must be awakened to our soul’s guidance and the guidance of Spirit if we are to be successful in accessing our immense potential. The first step is awakening to yourself, your conflicts within, your inner beast and your inner divinity. I am by your side through every challenge. Take my hand and walk with me. This is a miraculous journey of epic proportion and you need not take it alone.

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Tarot for the Intuitive

Tarot is the language of the soul. Let me explain. Images have a powerful impact on a soul level, which is why advertisers love images. The soul speaks in images. The soul understands and interprets images and responds even when the mind doesn’t understand. We think of the messages from the soul as intuition. Even if we are not good at understanding images on a mental level we can get messages through the intuitive levels of feeling and knowing what they mean. The soul understands images then translates them to what you understand, as a gut level feeling, an inspired thought or a calm knowing you get an answer when you tune into your intuition as you read the cards.

Tarot is a complex system of images. Images made on purpose to speak to the soul. They involve arcane imagery from ancient wisdom. Every color, every symbol and every placement of every object in the image are carefully crafted to speak to activate the ancient understanding of the soul. The tarot is so complex that experts in tarot can spend years understanding the arcane codes within it. It uses astrology, numerology, biblical symbols and color codes used by mystics. This is not an easy discipline.

Yet, when we use tarot we are asking the soul to speak to us. Turning a card over and gazing at the image is a powerful experience if we can allow the soul to use what we call intuition to bring it forward. Tarot is complex, but it is also dynamic, changing and alive. The meaning of the card you pull for an answer to your question will change with each use. Allowing tarot to activate your intuition takes the mental process out of it. To receive what it is telling you is a skill that requires much attention to your psychic senses. It is thrilling to have that amazing moment of clarity when we get the message and know beyond a doubt that tarot is speaking to you.

We begin a group on Wednesday (Sept 5, 2018) to bring this skill forward. I hope you will join us. Sign up today! This will be a LIVE video course that will occur the next 4 Wednesdays at 6:30pm Pacific Time.  More here: https://lightstoneacademy.com/intuitive-tarot/

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Walking in Faith After Trauma

Walking in faith is the most difficult path of life but is even more so when the past haunts our every move. Our past is made up of events and images that create identity. It is constructed by the world around us. When we go within we discover a new being not confined by the past. This new being is as innocent as a newborn. When we connect with this inner being we begin the battle of understanding our essence in contrast with our ego. The ego is a fine vehicle for the development of consciousness and serves its purpose. When we release the past our purpose shifts to that of trust in self.

Alas, our past is a specter of great power and the battle continues. We do not remember past lifetimes, so we do not become enthralled by what was. With each new lifetime, we wash away memory and that is a great gift for each being. We need not remember, we need to go forward into the depths of the unknown and into the discovery of what gifts lie ahead. To consciously attune to the innocence within is a beginning of a great adventure. Not knowing what shall be and leaving it up to divinity is the perfection of existence that creates a lifetime of magic. Magic can rule us in a powerful way creating the miracles of living. Life is a precious thing. Being in the moment and allowing Spirit to care for the future is the greatest gift you can give yourself. We can view life in a different way when we see ourselves as an adventurer and discoverer on a wild ride into the deep abyss of power.

History is interesting, but it is just stories. Once a moment has passed it becomes a story. It is no longer a reality. And reality shifts depending upon perspective. What we cling to in the form of trauma is the idea of the history, but it may not be a reality of an event. We are clinging to the idea of a thing that may have happened, and this idea can cause great suffering when it is associated with pain. The past is an illusion, but the current state of suffering is real.

There are many tactics to overcome suffering from a trauma of the past. Predominantly understood to be the best solution is the concept of forgiveness but very few people can actually forgive their abuser or the cause of their trauma. Since this is the case many look to regression or talk therapy to come to a place of peace about it. Yet this can have mixed results, for some talking about a trauma allows the mind to become fixated on it and therefore creating an identity that depends on it, and the suffering becomes part of their very existence. Suffering can become necessary to living in these cases. To remove suffering from one who has incorporated it into their identity can be traumatizing. As therapies go most are unsuccessful in the healing of trauma. Even releasing the past and living in the now is a great challenge since traumatic memory is embedded in the cells of the body, therefore can be activated beyond the control of consciousness. The trauma must be released from our physical form as well as our emotional and mental states. Trauma is not held on the soul level, on the soul level all events are merely memory.

There are a great many people who suffer from trauma of the past, almost everyone on Earth! Spirit brings multitudes of ways to help release suffering that will empower the individual to live in the now. What is up to the person is choosing what they are willing and ready to part with. The cause of your suffering need not be known, the source of your pain need not be understood. Instead, simply asking through prayer, a plea, or humble request to Spirit for relief, is all that is needed to relieve you. Ask spirit, ask for the healing angels, ask for help from those on the other side who love and help you every day without your knowledge. Then let your suffering go. Spirit knows how to release it, when to release it, and what is the most beneficial and the least difficult to be released and therefore, what can be healed right now. Spirit is at your service to heal all you have that causes your pain and suffering. Allow them to step in to help you in every way.

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Why Psychics Don’t Win The Lottery

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Working with Spirit provides incredible information on everything! When we are aligned with our guides through the intention and integrity of upholding the sacred laws we are given wonderful gifts of wisdom and truth not accessible to most people. We can do miraculous things and get mindblowing insights. Yet the big question remains:

Why don’t they get the winning lottery numbers?

This question is on the minds of skeptics and psychics alike. I will do the short answer here but for a more thorough exploration of this question and on how psychic energy works go to my Patreon for the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/posts/why-psychics-win-20941065

For now, here is a (very short) list of reasons:

  1. The guides give us information to serve our highest good and the highest good of the client. You may believe it is in your highest good to have millions, yet, is it really? Even if your vision of being rich means that you can be the world’s greatest philanthropist and give to all the best causes, it may not be the best utilization of your talents, and what you give to the world as you work in life is of greater value than money.
  2. Spirit is unconcerned with money. That means that Spirit sees no benefit with having a great deal of money. If it does not benefit you in some way Spirit will not provide it.
  3. We only receive what will help us on our path of life. For most of us, our life is an adventure of exploration and unique experiences put forth by using ingenuity and their guidance. We may not be so motivated to live up to our potential if we don’t have money as a motivator.

Think of the ways in which money motivates your daily experience. Think of the good you do in your job and for the people you encounter daily. You may not know them if you had a great deal of money.

Money means security in an insecure world. We want money so we don’t worry about our survival. We want to win the lottery just to breathe a sigh of relief and release our survival fears. But money doesn’t really release our fears. We can only release our fears when we deal with them. Instead of thinking that the lottery might solve your problems, ask Spirit to help you feel secure and abundant every day!

 

 

 

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Your Relationship with Spirit

 

Relationships are complicated. What do the people in your life, whom you love and who love you, want from you? How do you accommodate or deny the demands of your significant others? What would happen if you didn’t call your mother back or remember your partner’s birthday? For most of us, these examples would be the highest form of disrespect and would be unthinkable. Why is that? Why can’t we love and be loved without expectation? We can’t because we are human beings who are programmed to be in reciprocal relationship societies for survival. We help each other out in our communities, families and so on as has been done for thousands of years to survive. We are hard-wired to call our mothers back and to treat those we love with special attention and favor. If we get out of line we will be shamed and may have guilt over our actions. Societies have used guilt and shame to maintain order and thrive for eons.

Guilt and shame can serve a purpose. For emotionally healthy people it is rare to have those feelings or worry about being shamed by someone you love.  For those raised in dysfunctional environments shame and guilt are used by abusers as tools to control the victim this causes an underlying programming that is unhealthy and creates more unhealthy relationships in adulthood. The avoidance of guilt and shame become the main motivators for relationship behavior in dysfunctional relationships.

We have so many types of relationships in our lives parents, siblings, friends, extended family, co-workers and each one can be different. To know how a relationship stands think about the last time you called someone back; did you call them because you would love to talk to them or did you call them because you would feel guilty if you didn’t?

Think about the unconscious ways in which you relate to people. Even if we have loving and balanced relationships there are reciprocal expectations and we live within these expectations so easily that our role in the relationship is second nature. We don’t even notice how we cater to the demands in a relationship or how we live under a threat of guilt and shame by not fulfilling our role in the name of love.

Our relationship with Spirit is different, but for those beginning on their path to working with the heavenly realms, it may not seem so. As we start our work with Spirit we transfer our usual expectations and behaviors in human relationships to our Guides. We automatically think of it as a reciprocal relationship, because that is what we are hard-wired for. We can feel guilty if we don’t follow the advice of our guides, we can worry that we are not communicating with them enough, we can even believe that they need our attention or else they will stop communicating with us and punish us.

The first time I channeled my Guide the power of unconditional, pure, divine love filled me so completely I cried in big sobs. This gave me an understanding that reprogrammed me to know the power of this love as not being demanding or reciprocal, it just is. No matter what I do, no matter if I follow Spirit’s advice or never speak to them again – it is always there for me no matter what. I need do nothing to be there for them, I need not do anything they ask of me, and they don’t need my love in return. They don’t need me to be sin-free, they do not need me to try harder, to do better, or to be anything but what I want to be. I do what I choose because I want to, I listen when I want to, and I ignore them when I want to, and they are totally fine with that.

You do not have to be special or do anything for them to get the help, love, guidance, wisdom, and miracles you desire. All you need to do is ask. This is not a complicated relationship. This is joyfully easy.

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The Truth of You

The wisdom of Spirit has subtle sweetness as a quiet loving voice barely noticeable in the mind. It is easily ignored and brushed aside by the powerful demands of the ego or the negative programming of youth. Yet it is there, it is always there. The softness of the energy takes great sensitivity to be aware of, but most have found that quieting the mind in meditation allows this voice to be heard. Yet, it comes through not just meditation but when the mind is at rest, like doing the dishes, taking a shower, or driving a car. Insights can come through as the mind is relaxed and we have a moment of clarity about a problem or a question that has been troubling us.

Spirit makes itself known in quiet ways through our intuition and is available to everyone. Yet some of us want a more interactive and profound experience with this mysterious force. If we ask for Spirit to guide our lives and allow the voice to come through more clearly and powerfully things begin to change in unexpected ways.

In our youth, we develop our ego and in our young adulthood, we base many of our choices based on the desires of the ego for success, status and so on. We may choose our careers on what ego wants, as well as our spouse and our lifestyle. Then we begin to have an awakening, a change in perspective sometimes precipitated by an event that cannot be reasonably explained. We become curious and want to explore the power within and the power of Spirit. Once we see a miracle it is difficult to ignore it, so we start to explore what it is, what the unseen force of life is, where the wisdom comes from and how we can use that wisdom to guide our lives. We ask to know Spirit and ask Spirit to be the guiding force in our lives. Then things change.

Spirit does not have the same desires as the ego. Spirit has no regard for the opinion of others. Spirit cares not for status or recognition. All things that are built by the ego are dismantled by Spirit. To be guided by Spirit we must release attachment to all things of the ego, and the ego is very attached to many things. When we choose to follow the path of Spirit we leave behind all that we thought we were to find the truth of who we are. Following the path of Spirit requires a letting go of attachment sometimes this can be a dramatic and painful experience. If it is important to our ego to have the status of an important job, but the spirit wishes to express itself as a creative force the transition to that could be hard if you are conflicted about letting go the ego job. Sometimes this manifests as being fired, losing financial status or even broken relationships. It may even feel like you are being punished by Spirit, but it is a realignment with what is true. It is making way for you to find your power. It is opening the pathway to walking with the Light. It is only transitional and once the path of Spirit is your way, you shall co-create a new life following the wisdom of divinity, a new life-based in love instead of fear, a new life with the power of All That Is within you.

A whole and powerful you shall emerge with ecstatic joy.

 

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